in case you haven’t heard, i’m getting married!
heh. ok, i know you’ve heard. and you know we are just planning planning planning. one of the many things you plan is the ceremony. we are not having a traditional church wedding. in fact we are making wed at what some people would call a church to commercialism and materialism. but i digress…..
i’ve been making lists and reading and ruminating over different things to make a meaningful and fun ceremony for us and our loved ones. i’ve thought about poetry and readings, trace is investigating officiants and i am imagining what songs we might here or ask friends to sing for us. i’ve been looking through a couple books from the library about ceremonies.
all i am clear on so far is really the things we probably wont do. not religious per se, probably will write something special for my groom, but not sure i want to write and read aloud my own vows, no unity candles, no sand ceremonies, no rose flinging, no naked interpretive dance. and aren’t those things more rituals then ceremonies themselves? bygones (fishism).
there are a couple of things that have to do with different wedding rituals and cultures or religions that do intrigue – but how couth is it to “borrow” from the traditions of others?
for example, there is a morocco pavilion at EPCOT, and i’ve always wanted to do mendhi – they have it there. its a traditional part of indian/hindu ceremonies. on a completely flip side, honestly, except for some thing called “a wine box ceremony“, the only thing that i find remotely intiguing and can see myself doing, is jumping the broom. i’m thinking maybe not cool for two white people to jump the broom.
i’m divided. wat do you think?